Jackattack wrote:I remember thinking early on (in my teens) that I would meet my wife in college or just after, get married and eventually have kids. Maybe college seemed that far off and older to me at that point. Well that didn't happen, and I was better off for it. I moved to the west coast, met my now wife after a few years, and eventually got married after 5-6 years of dating. We waited another 5 or so to have our first child. I had several years on my own, (from 22-26) dating, or not, making career moves, and discovering who I was. If I had to take on all the responsibilities of father and husband at an early age, I would have never had that "adventure" time in my life. I remember as I was approaching 30, that marriage was getting less and less "necessary" for me, and the longer we waited to have children, the more I began thinking, "we don't HAVE to have children" Now, I'm glad we did both of those, but my only point is, get to know yourself first, travel the world, meet a lot of women!, and don't get married because you think that those responsibilities will settle you down and make you grow up. They won't. Life has a funny way of sending you the perfect person at the right time when you are taking care of yourself and doing what makes you happy.
I totally agree Jack,
I met my wife when I was almost 29, we dated for a year, were engaged for a year and now have been married for almost 2 years. Kids are the next step, but we are not in a huge hurry. As I began approaching 30, I didnt know that I was going to get married, I always knew that I wanted to have kids, but didnt think marriage was necessarily going to be a for sure part of the deal. I love my wife, she has been very good for me, but I think if I had met her 10 years ago, things would have been a lot different. I definitely learned some stuff along the road and experience is a good thing to bring to a relationship IMO.
A person needs to have experiences and live life. I have never been able to understand people that HAVE to be in relationships. You have to first know yourself, who you are alone, before you can be somebodies everything and have somebody be yours in turn.